When would you be ready to lose yourself? Now?
Let’s Start…
Nowadays, the “Find yourself” approach is a trend. It feels like we work on it a lot to make sense of our life. We travel, practice yoga, go shopping, or even work harder… To just find ourselves.. However, I think it is not enough to really find and discover something inside us..
Maybe, you work or study very hard. The people around you may tell you that you are very hardworking, very smart, etc… Maybe, it’s just you are trying to stay away from yourself or avoiding facing yourself…
Maybe we should learn to lose ourselves instead of trying to find ourselves.,. Actually, being lost is not a bad thing. It is a way to discover a new path for yourself…
However, I don’t mean just like to be lost in the streets… It is a kind of being lost in the moment. Being lost where you don’t remember your feelings, problems, or plans…
No need for adventures or climbing mountains.. Maybe, it is just enough for you to look at the sky, talking to yourself, or just listening…
The story..
5 years ago, I went with a group of friends on a day trip to an island in Istanbul. We were planning to rent a bike and cycling all day. Although I love riding a bicycle, it had been more than a decade that I rode a bicycle last time.
In my childhood… When I was a child, I could go far with my bike. Sometimes with my friends, sometimes too far away that my friends couldn’t come with me…
Now, at that moment, everything was very similar to my childhood memories. We started with a group of friends and then we split into small groups. Each group went through different ways. There were so many directions on the island and that actually caused me to get lost.
When I looked back for a moment, I realized that there was no one in my direction…
Lose and discover…
At that time, it was the period that I was trying to find myself.. Seeking the meaning and motivation for my life.. My mind was overloaded. I couldn’t find any solution… There were more and more problems every day. I was thinking that my situation would be like a ball that falls and hits the ground and then rises.. However, in my case, there was no ground and I was falling and sinking deeper every day without finding the ground.
Then I recognized that what I needed was not to find myself. It was to lose myself.. And exactly at that moment, this was happening… It was like being half-awake in a dream… I could shape it as how I wanted to be. My hours passed like this. It was very hot. I was sweating. There was no water to drink, but when you are in that mode, you actually don’t care about being thirsty… 🙂
I was riding the bike sometimes slow and sometimes fast. Sometimes I sat and watched the nature and sea in the shadows of trees.
Then, I continued. Sometimes I was riding downhill as flying freely like a bird.
Like a bird that just got out of the cage…
The day was complete. I found my friends at the first meeting point… Some of them were also lost. It was obvious that their case was not like mine… 🤤
When we were walking together in the narrow streets of the island, I saw a bicycle in front of a house. There was a feeling that stopped me there.. I was actually watching the summary of my day at that moment…
A bike.. Tired but ready to fly 🙂
I took its picture. After 5 years, I still feel that journey when I look at that picture. Although I have read, tried many things, it didn’t work. I was believing that I would find it soon..
Finally, the solution was there. The journey of how I lost myself in the moment, how I experienced my childhood memories again…
To follow the path you believe in and not to avoid trying again and again after every rejection or problem…
Now, writing these lines helps me to lose myself while forgetting about the time and everything surrounded me.
How about you? What would help you lose yourself?
Life is not all about finding yourself. Now it is more about finding things you love and losing yourself in them. This also comes with self-awareness and listening to your heart…
I wish you the courage to lose yourself in the things you love.. 🙂
